Double Standards- Can Women and Men be friends?

I want to know can Women and Men be friends or does it always have to turn into something sexual? I mean if you look at it, you can say no in some ways and then you can say Yes! I think it all depends on the people.

I have a friend and she was so confused about what is going on in her relationship. Well her husband is big in the entertainment field and he deal with different people on a daily- both men and women so it is kind of hard for her. But she has always been told that men and women can t be friends because the man is ALWAYS GOING TO WANT TO HIT! Well she is now dealing with a situation with him dealing with all of those women trying to get at him and all he say is "I love you, and I just look at it as business". Well that is when she started talking to me because she thought that was DOUBLE STANDARDS when there is an excuse for his actions.

I didn't want to touch this one with a ten foot pole at all but I said I will help her out. But one thing I will say, I didn't persuade her to leave him or anything like that. I just told her to be more observant because it is Double Standards. You can't justify anything you said for the other person and give an excuse because of who you are and what your intentions are at the time.

That is bogous bullshit and he knows it. I mean she have to look at it like this, if he didn't bring it up and you had to notice it then your feelings do not matter. I really dont think that he cares about her feelings because if he did then when she asked him about it she wouldn't have even had to remind him of what he said and then him deny it by saying I didn't say that recently. BULLSHIT AND AN EXCUSE!

All I have to say is the way to stay on track is you make sure you are doing the same thing. You have your male friends but dont stoop to his level , just keep them as friends, because anything further then that will classify you as hoe and that is something you want to avoid.

Till we meet again!
~Rydah~

Life's Lyrics Show today....

This is your girl Rydah Gurl, one of the hosts on Life Lyrics under your boy Be Heard. I just got done with the show to day and I have a lot of feelings about what went on.... Well We had Sircherry on the show and it was quite interesting. We talked about insecurities in a man and a woman , also talked about "What is the first thing a man do wrong, when approaching a woman?" I mean there was alot of things said but the one thing that stuck out to me was the fact that communication is almost dead in a relationship. I mean I have been with the same man for 11 going on 12 years and that is all I see us doing is communicating. We tell each other when we feel a certain way and also when something is going on inside that is not quite right. But for men and woman to say it is an issue in their relationship, I feel like that is something that should be worked on first before anything goes any further because if it goes any further then that it will stay that way.

I just wanted to thank Sircherry for spending time with us and enlightening us with presence and I would like to post a link about his book also that is for sale and I will be reading that book! Everyone if you haven't heard anything about the show. Check us out- www.blogtalkradio.com/BE-Heard- on Mondays, Fridays, and Sundays!!!!

Thanks for listening ~Rydah~

NAKIA BENJAMIN FROM KBS:PEARL-Working on her album

NAKIA BENJAMIN INTERVIEW – SEPTEMBER 13, 2009 AT 6PM -8 PM – LIFE LYRICS SHOW.

Nakia Benjamin is the newest R&B Female sensation with Broadway, NC. She can hang with Latoya London’s and Beyonce’s in the industry. She has a soulful and sultry voice, but hit you from all angles. She is very smooth while singing and sexy all at the same time. Nakia is currently working on her album, but have released a couple of singles for a buzz. She signed to KBS: Pearl Entertainment, LLC and this will be her first album released under KBS. Keep your eyes and ears open for this woman because she is a “FORCE TO BE RECKEN WITH”. Check out her interview with Be heard Show Presents Life’s Lyrics Show with host Rydah Gurl and Karla.

LL: Nakia , tell us a little about yourself?

I am a 26 year old R&B artist with a talent of writing my own songs. I am from Broadway, NC , this town is very small if you blink when driving through it, you will have missed it.

LL: What type of singing background do you come from? Does anyone else sing in your family?

I come from a gospel background under the church musician that led my sister and I. Tell called us the “Benjamin Sisters”. I had it all man, shoulder pads and glitter (laugh). She had us doing everything, singing and dancing.

LL: Nakia you come from a state where a very talented singer named Fantasia Barrino. Do you feel any pressure when recording to have to fill or exceed her shoes?

Not really because we are 2 different artists and sounds. I saw her performance in Greensboro, NC in The Color Purple Broadway act.

LL: When did you start singing?

I started singing at 8 year old in the church. As I said I was under the gospel background.

LL: The female singers of today are coming from all different aspects are there any female artists out now or back then that influence you and did they help you to decide on your style?

Yes I would have to say that there are many different female artist and influence me. I would say one would be Faith Evans and another one Jasmine Sullivan if I had to actually name someone.

LL: Do you write your music? If so are you do you write from life lessons or experiences?

Yes I do write all of my lyrics. Some of my lyrics are from life experiences and others are from someone else experiences.

LL: Counselor is a callaboration with T.L.E.L.O, tell us how was it working with him and how did that come about?

TLELO is an awesome artist to work with. In Counselor, actually TLELO called me over to sing on two songs with him, he had me listen to both of them, and I chose Counselor and we wrote our verses and it was a hit in the making. We song the song and it was so intense because at that moment we were singing from issues that happened in our lives and it shows.

LL: Before you start recording, do you go back and listen to your older songs to get a taste of the flavor that you are working on?

Yes I do listen to my old songs and also I listen to the songs out today to make sure that I stay in with the now.

LL: What is it like working on your 1^st CD?

Well it is a lot of work and a lot of time but I have the patience to get it done. You have to have the ear for the music because if it not hot it will show it in your music.

LL: Are you going to do some cover music on this album?

No I have no interest in doing cover music at this moment.

LL: What do you think about the R&B scene today?

I think that it is changing for the good and leaning toward the pop industry and that is something that I like because I like to give a variety to my fans. When you listen to my album I want you to hear every type of genre you are looking for when you are enjoying the sounds.

LL: Tell us about your song “Nice and Slow”.

Well the song Nice and slow is telling the man (because I am single) lets take it slow you know don’t rush into things and lets get to know one another.

LL: What if the person is not receptive to what you have to offer?

Well then, I have to tell him to keep it moving. There is no need to waste his time or my time either.

LL: Is there any one you would like to thank or say hello to?

I would first like to thank my KBS family and let you guys know I got love for you and be looking out for my album in 2010.

Thank you so much for interviewing with the Life’s Lyrics show. It has definitely been a pleasure. If you would like we can go on out with the show and hang out until the end of the show.

Sure why not! Thanks.

END OF INTERVIEW