Reading Dear Amy today.....

Today I was sitting at home while it was raining badly here in Georgia. I was kind of disturbed by the way this situation was handled by Amy. I think the response could have been done differently. This is the situation:

DEAR AMY: AFTER 21 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY WIFE INFORMED ME THAT SHE WOULD BE FILING FOR A DIVORCE. WE HAVE 2 BOYS, AGES 13 AND 15, AND THEY WERE DEVASTATED.
WE LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN, SO I HAVE RELOCATED NEARBY. MY DAY-TO-DAY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SONS HAS BEEN DISRUPTED AT WHAT I BELIEVE TO BE A CRUCIAL TIME.
OUT PARK-STYLE HOME ON 2 ACRES WILL BE GONE. OUR FINANCIAL FUTURE AS A FAMILY WAS RELATIVELY SECURE, BUT THAT WILL CHANGE. OUR SONS WERE DOING VERY WELL IN SCHOOL AND WERE BY ALL ACCOUNTS, HAPPY AND WELL ADJUSTED.
MY SOON-TO-BE-EX-WIFE REFUSED ANY MARITAL COUNSELING, IGNORING THE THREE OF US AND INSISTING THAT SHE WAS DOING WHAT WAS"BEST FOR US.
AMY, HOW CAN DIVORCE BE BEST FOR OUR FAMILY? IRONIC, REALLY, THAT SHE REFUSED ANY MARRIAGE COUNSELING. NOW SHE HAS THE BOYS AND HERSELF IN COUNSELING, AND I COULD USE IT- DEVASTATED DAD

I observed what Amy said and it seemed like she was telling the Dad to basically give up on the family thing and get on with his life and just be there for the boys and their events. Then she said something like the boys could actually use the counseling and yada-yada-yada.
If this was something that I would say: I would say, dad first of all divorce is something that happen and it is bad but you have to flip the script and try to recoop from it. As far the kids go, I think that you should get with your ex-wife and let her know (no strings attached) that it would be beneficial if both of you guys are in their lives together as they were growing up, but now together. It could be something like a joint visit. I think you guys should work it to where you should be FRIENDS out this whole divorce situation. I do feel like counseling is the answer but make sure you are not going there for a solution to keep you guys together and you are going there to find a way to move forward. Divorce can really affect kids in school so please keep them in counseling. See if you can go to a counseling session with the kids alone one day.

You guys let me know which response is sensible.....
~Rydah~